Proposal Day!® -
Dates for the 2014 days of the Equinox:
The Vernal Equinox Proposal Day!® Holiday was on Thursday, March 20th, 2014.
The Autumnal Equinox Proposal Day!® Holiday will be on Monday, September 22, 2014.
The biannual "Proposal Day!® Holidays are meant for those singles seeking marriage who know exactly who they want to marry & are searching for the best way to persuade their true love to consider them as a potential marriage partner. An excellent way to approach the one you love is to follow the example already being set by those candidates for the American Presidential election of 2016: Simply announce your candidacy for the position! By declaring your candidacy for the position of fiancé or fiancée to the one you love, you are making clear your interest in fulfilling this role and that you believe you have what it takes to build a successful marriage together with your true love.
Plan on spending a maximum of nine months campaigning, and it's virtually certain that you'll be able to tell well before the ninth month if the one you hope to marry views you as an acceptable candidate or not by his or her reaction to your announcing your candidacy and your ongoing campaign efforts.
In this way, the Holiday presents an opportunity to raise the subject of marriage proposals in a light-hearted and non-threating manner, and it's a gentle way to get a glimpse of how the person you love might feel about a marriage proposal that'll lead to the two of you becoming engaged to be married!
Here's what can happen when an eligible single has fallen in love and begins to think about marriage.... He or she knows who it is they want to marry "someday", and hopes that the one they love feels the same way about them. What they wonder is if they are looked at as a real friend and potential spouse, or merely as someone who's fun to date, but not considered suitable for marriage? They hope that it's possible the one they love is already seriously considering them as a potential spouse. And, if so, then how best to find it out?
This stall speed "mutual reticence" is common when neither in the relationship makes it clear to the other that they want to be considered as a candidate for marriage. What often happens in such cases is that each single in the dating relationship hopes that that the other is thinking of them as a potential spouse, and each wishes that they knew how the other really and truly feels about the possibility of marriage between the two of them someday. If both in the relationship show reluctance to make their true feelings known, then this kind of "standoff" can continue for months or years.... and, to quote Albert Einstein, nothing will happen until something moves!
Sending a Proposal Day!® card to your true love is a decisive act that is designed to generate real motion in your relationship; either positive interest in the possibility of marriage to you, or a distinct lack of enthusiasm for the idea of marrying you that makes you understand that the two of you will always remain friends, but it's unlikely you'll ever marry each other. The Holiday card helps to make the upcoming fork in the road ahead in the relationship clear. Will the couple's relationship be based in future years on marriage or remain one of mutual friendship and affection?
The Holiday is particularly effective in assisting those in long term multi-year relationships who've been drifting along over the years without moving towards a specific commitment such as 'engaged to be married'. By opening the door on a delicate subject that's been danced around for too long and generating an opportunity for an honest discussion about their future together, the Holiday provides opportunities to discuss the path ahead. Some couples will sense that they'll be making their wedding plans soon, while others will come to an understanding that their existing relationship is comfortable, but it's also unlikely to ever lead to anything serious. By acting as a catalyst, the Holiday helps the single who is seeking marriage in the relationship avoid unknowingly spending years more searching for a ring within a relationship that does not present that opportunity now and is not ever likely to present it in the future.
Just as a marriage proposal can be made on any day of the year, the Proposal Day!® greeting card can be sent to your true love on any day throughout the year. However, the card should never be sent to anyone you wouldn't be very happy to see thrilled at the idea of becoming your future spouse. Only give this card if you consider the person you're sending it to as marriageable and desirable, and you are quite certain that you would accept their proposal of marriage if one is made to you as a result of your sending this card. Sending a 2014 Proposal Day!® card isn't making a proposal of marriage, but it is an excellent way to let the one you love and hope to marry know that you're happy when you think of what it'd be like to be married to them, and that you want them to consider you as a current candidate for their hand in marriage.
Singles seeking marriage can use what they've learned from discussing the Holiday with their true love to actually pop the big question at any time during the year. The Proposal Day® Holiday is able to help many singles overcome their hesitation, begin to generate focused positive momentum moving forward, and to finally make a firm decision to begin the process of making preparations to: PROPOSE MARRIAGE TO THEIR TRUE LOVE!
Singles who are looking for a special day for their marriage proposal are encouraged to propose to their true love on either the first day of Spring or the first day of Autumn --- the day of the Vernal Equinox or the Autumnal Equinox, as these are the two days in the year where day and night are of equal length wolrldwide, symbolizing the equaility of the two who comprise the successful marriage. Although few of those who discuss this topic will choose to propose on the Holiday itself...still, what's a nice marriage proposal if the exact timing, manner, and method doesn't remain a pleasant mystery? Any day that is special to you, the one you love and intend to propose marriage to, or a day that is meaningful to you both as a couple, will be a perfectly fine day for your marriage proposal.
The flow of everyday life will not stop and await your decision to make your proposal of marriage. Do not linger too long, my friend. If you do, you give another person, a potential rival for your true love's affections, the opportunity to meet, woo, and win the heart of your true love. If you haven't listened to "Tennessee Waltz" in a while, please review the lyrics, listen to it a couple of times, and think it over. Then, make your decision!
Please note: Only those age eighteen or older can be included on the list of "Most Eligible Singles". Those you nominate to be among the "Most Eligible" should not be married or known to be formally engaged to be married. And, although I appreciate the interest in the Holiday among young teens, this Holiday is meant for those who are legally old enough to marry in the jurisdiction in which they live. The Holiday must not be used to propose marriage to a person you are legally unable to marry due to state and/or federal laws or the laws of the country of which you are a citizen or subject. When in doubt over any possible legal issue involving your proposal, it's an excellent idea to seek legal advice from a qualified legal professional well before making any proposal of marriage.
My announcement of the winners of the title of "Most Eligible Single in the World" on the Equinoxes represents my best opinion on this subject, based upon personal research on the topic and your input. As in any subjective matter, your opinion might well differ from my own. In fact, radio DJ surveys on the Holiday prove beyond doubt that each radio station audience has their own ideas of who should be named as the most eligible bachelor and bachelorette on each Equinox! And, every now and then, a DJ will actually have the opportunity to have an on-the-air marriage proposal made during their show!
Here's one example of how to use the Proposal Day!® Greeting Card concept to move forward in your journey from "single" to "engaged to be married to your true love":
For those who are good at basic arts & crafts, you can easily make you own personalized greeting card for the upcoming 2014 Autumnal Equinox Proposal Day!® Holiday that will serve to get your message across to your true love. Those who craft such a Proposal Day!® card themselves for their own personal use are requested to donate the two dollar per card fee to your local animal shelter instead of sending it in to our Texas address. Imagine what a blessing your dollars will be for the dogs, cats, and other helpless creatures in the shelter who are seeking new forever homes, as well as for those who go to the shelter searching for the right pet to adopt into their family. In this way, the family formation that results from a successful marriage proposal is foreshadowed by your contributing to the health and welfare of these pets who depend upon the kindness of men and women of good will as they are awaiting homes where they will become loved members of families themselves!
On the cover of your card, write "My list of the five most eligible singles in the world!" On the inside of your card, write "And you're on it...." Then, underneath your heading, list those celebrity singles you believe to be the most eligible man and the most eligible woman in the world today, along with a back up for each. Many high quality eligible single candidates can be found among the world's royalty and elite actors, actresses, musicians, singers, athletes, and other newsworthy individuals. Your listing gives you four of your top five. If you have trouble making such a list, then feel free to use mine from the previous Holiday. Then, go ahead and put the name of your true love on your list of the five most eligible. Very few men or women will feel threatened or slighted by being included in such a listing of world-famous singles. And, your list is meant to be your objective list of those four celebrity singles you consider to be the most eligible singles in the world, not necessarily meaning that all those you list are the most eligible singles for you personally. Your list gets the conversational ball rolling forward and gives you an opportunity to ask your true love who would be on their list, and why they would include each particular person. Be prepared to share why you list your top four celebrities....and go further than physical appearance, wealth, and social status. It means you'll need to read a full biography on each of those famous singles on your list, and you'll learn of the sacrifices they made to achieve what they have in life. How well do you know your true love...their sacrifices... their dreams for the future? How well does your true love know yours?
I've been asked how long I think is reasonable for a single to wait for a marriage proposal while in a mutually exclusive relationship? My opinion is that anywhere between nine months and sixty months is reasonable, but less than nine months would only be reasonable if there was a specific reason why the couple was breaking up, such as abuse, addiction, or being unfaithful to the agreement to remain mutually exclusive. And, I do see staying together in a mutually exclusive relationship for longer than five years as all right as long as it's what both in the relationship want and freely choose. However, if one of the two in the relationship wants marriage and the other wants to wait, then I would use the nine month to sixty month guide as a broad outline "rule of thumb" to help you gauge when what seems like a long time with no movement or forward momentum in the relationship becomes a period of time that could be considered as very clearly too long.
While you're working on your list of eligible singles, it's time to include at least one other eligible candidate you know personally in the number six to ten position...and those in the number six to ten position on your list are for your consideration alone. I'd recommend not sharing more than the identities of your top five with your true love until you get a very clear picture of where you rank on their list of most eligible. To identify your eligible candidate you know personally, ask yourself who are the eligible singles you know among those you meet at work, at school, at your place of worship or spiritual fellowship, among the social media sites you visit, while performing volunteer work, perhaps one who shares your mutual interest in specific hobbies, etc. etc. etc.? Which one of these "eligible and potential candidates for your consideration" ranks highest after your true love on your list? This is the name that should be in your list somewhere in the #6 to #10 position!
The conversation generated by your card is meant to lead to a discussion between you and your true love of your future together. You've indicated by your card that you consider your true love to be among the most eligible singles on earth. Now, it's time for them to let you know where you stand. You're making it clear that you want to have a future with your true love.... Now...now it's time to learn if your true love shares your deepest desires.
If you find that your true love does not consider you to be marriageable, then you must decide if you want to stay in your current relationship, knowing that you're not considered particularly marriageable and that your relationship is probably not going to lead to marriage, or if you want to leave the relationship to seek a person who will find you marriageable. The decision must be yours.... Do you want to pursue the person you know personally who you've listed in your number six to ten positions in your most eligible list, or is there also someone you'd list among your top twenty or top fifty who you'd be interested in seeing if you could have a future together? Each person in such a situation must make his or her own decision and decide what is best for themselves....
Most Eligible Singles on the Vernal Equinox Holiday
The Most Eligible Singles for the Spring & Summer of 2014:
Prince Harry from the United Kingdom
and Taylor Swift from the United States of America.
Who are the most eligible singles in the world in March of 2014?
The creator of the Proposal Day!® Holiday, John Michael O'Loughlin, announces his opinion every Equinox, based upon research and your input, seeking the answer to the question: "Who are the two most eligible bachelors and the two most eligible bachelorettes in the world today"?
For the Vernal Equinox of 2014, it is John Michael's opinion that those who should carry the title of "Most Eligible Singles in the World" are:
Most Eligible Bachelor on the Vernal Equinox of 2014: Prince Harry is the most eligible man in the world in March of 2014. There has been virtually unanimous agreement that Prince Harry has been very high on everyone's list of the most eligible men in the world ever since his brother Prince William, the future King of Great Britain, wed Kate Middleton.
Serving as back-up for the title of "Most Eligible Man" in case His Majesty should become engaged before the Autumnal Equinox of 2014 is the award-winning actor and film producer Leonardo DiCaprio.
John Michael's opinion is that the Most Eligible Woman in the World on the Vernal Equinox of 2014 is one of the most talented young musicians in the world today...young American musical princess Taylor Swift is gracious, talented, and mature far beyond her years.
Backing up Miss Swift for the Spring & Summer 2014 title of "Most Eligible Woman" is British actress Emma Watson, all grown up now from her days portraying Hermione Granger on the set of the "Harry Potter" series of films.
It's easy to make your choices known for the upcoming Autumnal Equinox Holiday of 2014. Winners of the Title of "Most Eligible Man in the World" and "Most Eligible Woman in the World" and their back-ups will be posted a day or two before the Holiday to this website. To vote for your favorites, please send an email with your Title Winners and Back-up choices for the most eligible bachelor and bachelorette to John Michael at: LLDJOHN@AOL.COM
There will be over one million marriage proposals made in America during 2014 & over ten million proposals of marriage made worldwide. Will yours be among them, or will you wait until 2015 or 2016...or perhaps 2017... or maybe even later?
Some Marriage Proposal Tips:
For those who have heard dozens of marriage proposal stories, it quickly becomes apparent that there's just the right and proper marriage proposal for each couple. Find yours by considering your interests and temperament...exciting, placid, edgy, sentimental, traditional, clever, or perhaps incredibly creative and a mixture of these and other elements? Some simple thoughts to avoid mishaps...plan in such a way that there will be little chance of embarrassment, serious mishap or injuries, or risk of any fatalities during the proposal...really! .
Seek out a time, a place, and (if you prefer) an audience that your beloved will find welcome. Unless you're quite certain that your true love will welcome a "surprise marriage proposal" with a stadium of strangers for an audience at a sporting event or concert, then this would not be the way to proceed. For those who can't decide what might be the best way to propose, my advice is to make your marriage proposal a pleasant experience in a relaxed setting you'll both enjoy with a specific moment where it is crystal clear that you are making a proposal of marriage. The marriage proposal and the couple involved should have center stage. The setting should provide what you want as the proper stage for your event without being so distractive that it steals center stage from the proposal itself. A setting or event that is so over the top that it takes center stage away from the marriage proposal and the couple involved can be used if you don't mind your marriage proposal becoming a supporting event to the spectacle of the setting....it's a very fine line, and each couple will have to draw this line for themselves. For most couples, you can't go wrong in choosing a subdued, intimate and cozy setting lacking a high intensity atmosphere, thus allowing the day of your marriage proposal to forever remain a time in your lives that you both can look back upon fondly....
The Autumnal Equinox edition of Proposal Day!® 2014 Greeting Cards are now available by mail-order.
All-inclusive prices via check or money order made payable to: "LLD Company"
Prices valid for orders postmarked before July 4th, 2015
Domestic Orders: $20
Orders shipped outside the USA: $25
Please address all Greeting Card orders to: Lady, Lad, and Delia Company Attn: John O'Loughlin Post Office Box 605 Colleyville TX 76034
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“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor."
American author Mark Twain, (1835-1910)
how will you feel if the one you love ends up marrying another because you kept your feelings to yourself and they never knew that you had hoped to marry them?